Don’t just set goal. Set goal to achieve it.
Setting goals sounds easy. And it’s a matter of fact that everyone can set goals for themselves.
Achieving these goals, on the other hand, is a different story.
There’s a stark reality that most people don’t have a clearly defined set of goals. And more than that,
“The goal setting process goes far beyond merely speaking affirmative and having a vision to achieve something greater”
Tony Robbins, who is well-known to be a life coach, shares his 4 golden rules to set goals based on his own experience.
Having a goal in your mind? Write it down.
“Write your goals down, not in your computer, but on paper, or in a journal. There’s something happens when you’re writing down something”
I once did a research of bullet journal users and discovered that this community is worldwide and extremely big. I was amazed at how active they are.
Then I tried to figure out the reason why people are so fond of BJ by using it myself, and ultimately, found the power of writing down something as Tony said. It utilizes my creativity and gives me enthusiasm, perhaps, to achieve goals, or at least to find the ways to achieve them.
Just think about why you desire to make that specific change, write it down. You will become more aware of things you’re dissatisfied with in your life and how you really want to change it.
Ask the most important question “Why is it important?”
Setting goals is important. We all know. However, not all of us feel and act towards that importance.
“By getting absolutely clear as to why you must achieve your goal, you will find the purpose”
The best way to achieve your goal is to create a really big WHY behind it. Robbins uses the two most powerful emotions that drive our species:
- The need to avoid pain
- The desire to seek pleasure
Let’s take a simple example: You might run a red light to make a meeting on time. Why? You’re avoiding the pain (shame) of being late. But you won’t run red lights to get home for dinner.
This is how Pain/pleasure model works:
- The pain in not getting home for dinner: your family happiness level will go down for sure. And if you think for other seconds, the problem can be even more serious
- The pleasure in getting home for dinner: You can create joy each evening with your beloved. Sometimes joy is the best therapy.
The Pain/Pleasure Framework turns “shoulds” into “musts”. Think about it: you don’t say, “I should go to work.” You say, “I must go to work [even when it’s painful] or I’ll lose my job [which is far more painful].” Now you can use this framework to turn “I should exercise” into “I must exercise.”
The difference between ‘must’ and ‘should’ is the life you want and the life you have
– Tony Robbins
And when something is a must, you’ll find the way.
Get into the right mindset
The reason why most people don’t follow through is because their psychology is messed up. How do you change your psychology? I don’t mean be positive, I mean be smart.
-Robbins tells CNBC’s Kathryn Dill.
No matter how difficult it seems, be determined to follow through. To boost his own willpower, Robbins does a series of daily physical exercises and follows certain habits that increase his focus and gratitude.
“Frame your goals with absolute certainty – that no matter what, you will find a way to make it happen,” he writes. “Even if it seems impossible to you now, you know in your core that you can pull it off.”
“Repetition is the mother of skills”
Everyone has heard the phrase Practice Makes Perfect. This is basically what Robbins means when he uses “Repeat” in his 4-step process.
Have you ever noticed that if you write down a goal that is unachievable, big and impossible to complete quickly, you get more disappointed if you fail? You then start losing focus on that goal and slowly, that goal becomes less important. Therefore writing small, achievable and repetitive tasks is a better formula for success.
“If you want to master anything,” Robbins says, “you have to ingrain it into your system.”
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